“Those after complete happiness very likely wish for complete autonomy; the ability to transport life’s inevitable shocks to some ethereal plane from which they can pick and choose whatever meanings they wish to endorse. This distant place is unreal, unseemly, scared. The happy man is the hollow man.” (Eric G. Wilson, Against Happiness)
One thing about popular culture: there’s a lot of happy. You can’t turn on a TV or go to bar or attend a church service and avoid positive energy, especially on matters of family, careers, causes, and spirituality. It’s really wonderful, but I must confess that at times, I don’t feel happy, and I don’t feel like feeling happy. At times, doubt prevails, sadness reigns, and happiness rings hollow. At times, I feel the need to escape the incessant pressure to smile.
Are you like me? If so, you will, paradoxically, find Against Happiness, by Eric G. Wilson, to be enormously uplifting. His 150-page, simply written essay decries our cultural insistence on a superficial happiness that robs us of our humanity. We must, he believes, embrace our sadness because it is in our nature to have fear and doubt and confusion in our souls. It is only by exploring our melancholy moods that we can recognize and appreciate our truly happy moments. It’s OK to be sad.
To demonstrate the connection between melancholia and joy, Wilson cites many historical examples of melancholy personalities who achieved miracles of creative and inspiring brilliance. His accounts of the careers of such figures as Keats, Beethoven, Coleridge, Melville, Virginia Woolf, and John Lennon are fascinating. Always careful not to overstate his case, Wilson notes that not all creative geniuses are melancholy, and not all melancholy personalities are creative geniuses. But his character studies are proof positive that our pain and suffering have meaning, bring us and others fulfillment, and are emphatically not things to be buried under a heap of cheap smiles.
Wilson seems to be something of a rationalist and a skeptic, holding firm to the notion that we cannot and should not be certain of anything. He sees life as a state of perpetual doubt, and one one level his book is a how-to manual for coping with this distressing condition. However, Wilson also has a sensitivity to and an appreciation of religion and faith, which serve to make his arguments accessible and reasonable to a wide audience. I do believe he makes a mistake by thinking that religion gives people a false and superficial sense of security. For some this may be true, but for others, faith raises more questions than it answers. At the same time, the confidence of a skeptic may be equally blind and equally superficial.
But I digress. Wilson’s purpose is not to make a case for any particular philosophical or spiritual system. He is simply trying to warn us that a collective attempt to stamp out sadness with mood altering medications and new age panaceas and vapid entertainment is paralyzing and dehumanizing. It is blinding us to real problems in our world that will grow to cataclysmic proportions unless we waken from our smiley face slumber and confront life as it is.
My one major criticism is a matter of style. Wilson is quite a fan of alliteration, and uses it to the point of distraction.
“But some people strain all the time to break through their mental manacles, to cleanse the portals of their perceptions, and to see the universe as an ungraspable riddle, gorgeous and gross.” (page 24)
Four or five sentences of this type in a work of this length are more than enough for me; Wilson tosses them off in batches of two or three a page when he gets rolling. Aside from that, though, I think you will find his style engaging and his command of philosophy, history, and literature impressive. He will force you to examine your soul with brutal honesty. It may not be easy, but in the end it is something we all must do – don’t you think?








Holly – I am always looking at ways to make positive changes. Keeps me fresh!
Karen – thanks for the book recommendation!
Brad – I feel like I am taking over your blog!!
Jackie, Feel free to comment and lead the discussion to your heart’s content. I am having a fine time enjoying this great conversation by just listening and learning!
I worked in a not so perfect environment- at least 20% parolees – misdemeanor to felony offense; 60% women/single mother in one way or another experienced domestic violence . I could see/feel/ sadness/ hopelessness in their eyes. Our location is in the middle of the city (New York City- Midtown – imagine 42nd street. I commute everyday – wrestling my way with my fellow commuters in trains and buses (in extreme cold in the winter and heat in the summer) . There was no days that I didn’t see nastiness in the streets on my way to work or on my way home. With just an speck of my everyday living, I don’t think there is room of self-doubt, nor sadness, nor fear – I consider myself a happy man – A hollow man. And I am not sorry about that. However, I may not feel sadness only DISGUST especially when I look back to where I came from. At present… I live in heaven.
One more which I forgot to mention, the perpetrator of “Writing To Exhale” send me here.
That falls within my area of expertise, too. And isn’t it funny I take to it like a duck to water? I don’t ask permission. In true Nike fashion, I just do it.
Ah, I’m a good listener, Yatot. Just now, I quite enjoy the many levels of your comment. You do know me really well. Whatever is on your mind? Permission granted. Goes without saying, of course. It’s just me putting others on notice who might happen to read my reply to you.
I’ve learned from Roy that to defeat writer’s block you just talk about writer’s block and you’re good to go. See? Ahahaha.
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Have a nice sip, Jan.
“Against Happiness” review is awesome indeed. The only thing is I forgot is to mention that you sent me there. I might go back and post just that.
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Good morning, Darbs. Hey- this is cool. Come to think of it, I’m having
coffee now. It’s all right, Darbs. Brad will surely know you’ve come from
my blog. People who stop here and then go off to read another blog have
this distinct aroma of coffee about them. The good smell precedes them.
Perhaps to warn the blog author?
Which reminds me of someone who used to be reader. This reader said to me
that every time he visits he smells good coffee brewing and hears this
unmistakable sound of my heart beating against my chest.
That’s one praise that still makes my day every time I remember it. Of
course, that was then and this is now. He has moved on to where he can find
a more exotic aroma of brewed coffee. And perhaps a more sane rendition of
a beating heart.
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hahaha! you’ve caught up.
thanks for the attribution Jan hehe…
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I’d be a fool if I give writer’s block the upperhand. No way. Perhaps this means I’m not a writer after all. We’ve been told only writers have writers block. One of your wise readers said that. “,)
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“I’ve learned from Roy that to defeat writer’s block you just talk about writer’s block and you’re good to go. See? Ahahaha.”
… and let the fingers do the talking! hahhahha… for me it’s easier to write when you let your fingers do the talk or in this case do the writing… in many case scenarios, when you let your fingers just type anything without thinking simultaneously, it all ends up with a long post after all… and later on you will find out and ask yourself… “am i really having a writer’s block dilemma?” hahahha…
come to think of it, even if your blog post is quite short than the usual… your comments are all lengthy… hahhaha
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“only writers haver writer’s block”
you know what follows with that Jan…
“not every one who have athlete’s foot are athlete”
tasteles I know, I just can’t resist it hehe…
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darbs, Your story stopped me dead in my tracks. There is unhappiness … and then there is unhappiness. What you experienced was severe and chilling: no wonder it changed your perspective. If it didn’t I don’t think you’d be human.
Hello Jan! I am going to check the link out. When I am feeling down or something like that I usually direct that negative energy into doing something positive. Or taking a long walk in the forest alone and let my mind wander as I savour the beauty of nature around me.
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I have to search what ‘dour’ means.
Now I am intrigued with that “Against Happiness.”
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Hello there! I got here from Jan’s blog. I find it weird that when I am feeling morose it’s also the time when I can write beautifully. I let those negative emotions fall into something positive. At least now I dont need to fake happiness for the sake og getting inspiration or doing something right.
Btw, nice book review.
Charles, You sound like a man after the author’s own heart. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experience – I hope you will come again.
That’s because Jan is a genuine writer…he he he..wala lang , napadaan ang can’t help but read the comments.
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Good morning, Charles. Yes, nature has a way of doing that – helps a lot in making you figure what’s important from trifling matters.
Hey, thanks a lot for dropping by Brad’s blog and leaving a comment. I’ve read it. lols
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Do you really have to? Just replace the “d” with “s” and you’d have a pretty good idea what I meant. Ahehehe. Thanks for dropping by, Ax.
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Sorry have not been back in a few days. Ive been having formatting problems with my blog. gah. So i guess it’s my turn to be dour – or frustrated is more like it. What good is being a control freak when you can’t control your own blog? LoL!
That’s also the reason why I wasn’t able to join the conversation over at Brad’s. I would have loved to.
I read a quote a while ago which struck me – “Just because you’re in pain doesn’t mean you have to be one.” Making small personal sacrifices for family and friends is nothing to me.
I agree though that sadness is a part of life. We should feel sad when we are sad. Talk about it with a friend.
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Rey, it’s all right. I’m a control freak, too. But I know how to let go. In fact, I’m an expert at letting go. That’s how I keep my sanity. lols.
Brad’s blog will be there for a long time. And it’s just a request from me anyway.
Lovely quote, Rey. I’d remember that. Talk about it with a friend? Well, there’s that, too. And there’s the matter of letting it be. Just because it’s important to me doesn’t necessarily mean friends are waiting to exhale – to hear it. lols
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I can see why this post sparked such a conversation AND why you chose it as one of your posts for the year end WILF line up